Dating for the chronically ill
Relationships can suffer when people don't discuss problems that have no easy or obvious solution, Kalb says.
And that lack of discussion can lead to feelings of distance and a lack of intimacy.
Whether you’re a profile on a dating site, or you’re chatting up a guy/girl on Facebook–make sure to drop the bomb before the first date. Why is it good to break the news online or even over the phone?
If they don’t want to go out with you after learning you have Crohn’s, Lupus, whatever–then that’s that. You have to be understanding of people when it comes to your chronic disease.
Or not mention them and hope that who I am as a person is enough to mitigate the health issues?
You feel trapped, out of control, and helpless." But with patience and commitment, there are ways you and your partner can deal with the strain a chronic illness can place on your relationship.The only thing more awkward than meeting your ex on a blind date-is having someone tell you something on a first date like “I have ass cancer,” and then having them STARE at you while a single, silent tear slips down their cheek. (or guy.) People are going to follow your lead when it comes to the state of your disease. I’m not saying you have to hug your fibromyalgia lovingly in your arms every night, but you at least have to be able to get through a flare in public without openly weeping. Partners of those with chronic illnesses are probably the closest things to super heroes.Hey all, there was a fire next to my apartment over the weekend.Studies show that marriages in which one spouse has a chronic illness are more likely to fail if the spouses are young.
And spouses who are caregivers are six times more likely to be depressed than spouses who do not need to be caregivers.
One of the major challenges of dating when you have a chronic illness is self-esteem.