Dating in other countries
When they spend time alone together, the girl and the boy don’t go out for dinner, they just go for a walk or chill at home, which is really different from the formal dating process I see in American movies. We don’t ask people out, especially if we don’t know them well.
When I was visiting California this summer, a cashier from Brandy Melville asked me out on a date while I was buying a t-shirt.
A friend of mine, a fellow European, summarized how relationships on opposite sides of the Atlantic Ocean work in a comical, but also pretty accurate way: “In America, the girl is Barbie and the guy is Ken.
In Europe both are both.” So how does this actually apply to the way relationships differ from each other in two continents whose inhabitants once belonged to the same culture?
I could hardly find anyone who wasn't in a relationship and who wasn't engaged in some serious PDA all over the place, complete with holding hands, wearing matching clothes, constantly uploading a super-couple-y profile picture on Facebook and so on.
If you just met at a party, well, you kiss, and things evolve naturally.
In fact, regardless of circumstance, cross cultural dating can lead to the most exciting adventure of exploring the world through another person.
And really, there are some undeniably wonderful (and occasionally not so wonderful) things about dating someone who holds a passport from a country that is different from your own.
And when we do ask our love interest if he wants to have a relationship, it’s because we already kissed or at least gotten really close. There’s no such thing as DTR (Defining The Relationship) because exclusivity is implied.
Once two people kiss while sober (French teenagers drink a lot, as it’s legal), they can already consider the other one as their boyfriend/girlfriend, and assume the relationship is going to be exclusive — there’s no need to define it.If you feel you like someone, you can go ahead and ask them out on a date.