Speed dating in the church
‘Honestly, Hopeful Girl, my problem isn’t that I have issues around dating – it’s that I never meet any single Christian men,’ a reader told me.
‘I’m starting to believe they’re mythical creatures, like unicorns!
To others, I described it as a low-pressure way to ease back into the dating scene after a painful end to a long-term relationship.
But inevitably, I had to be honest and call the two-hour event what it actually was: speed dating. On one hand, I could easily convince myself that attending such an event (and paying for the privilege) was a fun, practical and possibly even productive was to meet new people, make new friends, and maybe make plans to go on an actual date.
Whether you’re outgoing and adventurous, or shy and quiet, there’s something for you.
So make 2015 the year you stop seeing the same few faces every week, and start a whole new social life… But there’s no quicker way to expand your horizons than to upload a profile and start browsing.
I talked for a bit with a group of women who knew each other through a mutual friend at a Catholic church in New Jersey.
Finally, we sat down and the series of 5-minute dates began. "It's run by the Dominicans," I said, trying to offer more details about my college. "Not people from the Dominican Republic," I clarified. " We went back and forth for a minute, each unsure if the other was being sarcastic. "So are you one of those Catholics who just picks and chooses what they like? The amount of concentration required for me to keep a straight face took up most of my brain power.
She went on to become a full-time journalist for secular papers for ten years before becoming a freelance journalist for many Catholic papers, writing regularly for the Fort Collins’s as a restaurant critic for five years, which would later serve her business well.
In youth ministry we’ve begun to notice that two things occur as our youth programs become increasingly self-sustaining and disconnected: the adults in our congregation feel left out, uninformed and unappreciated, and the teenagers in our groups fail to become a part of the larger church family as God intends.